As a woman, I’m well aware of the way that people judge women. The biggest problem is that the worst judgers of women are often other women. If women make a different choice than the choice we made, some of us feel that we should be critical of that woman, forgetting that for women, it should be all about “choice.” That’s what generations of women fought for. The right to have choices and make their own decisions. It’s a curse as old as mankind, I think, this judging of women. It needs to stop, and it’s going to take the concerted effort of the majority for this to change. Women should be able to make whatever decisions are right for their families without being judged. One thing we can do as women right now is just become unapologetic. Make your decisions and don’t apologize to anyone for them.
Girl gets pregnant at 23: People say “She’s too young to have a baby”.
Girl gets pregnant at 35: “She’s risking her baby’s health!”
Girl considers abortion: “Can’t believe she’s just going to get rid of her baby.”
Girl considers adoption: “Can’t believe she’s just going to give her baby away.”
Girl keeps the baby: “How’s she going to afford that baby??”
Girl gets welfare: “Wow, she’s so lazy.”
Girl gets a job: “How can she stand to be away from her baby all day like that?”
Girl becomes a stay at home mom: “She probably doesn’t do anything all day.”
Girl stops hanging out with friends: “She totally changed when she had that baby.”
Girl goes out: “She’s always partying.”
Girl wants to leave crappy bf: “Nobody knows what it means to work things out anymore.”
Girl wants to stay with crappy bf: “She’s dumb.”
Girl eats burger: “Fatty.”
Girl eats salad: “Must be one of those starving health nuts.”
Girl is overprotective of her child: “You’re acting like a psycho.”
Girl lets her child play without her: “Where is this kid’s mom??”
Girl spanks her kid: “Call Protective Services!”
Girl refuses to spank: “Her kids are gonna be such brats.”
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